What is surprising to me is the number of women who are willing to buy a dress that’s clearly too tight in one of those areas in an attempt to avoid the alterations that will be needed by going to the proper size. The reasoning is always the same. She’s not sure how it will turn out. What puzzles me about this strategy is that it’s a 100% guarantee of wearing an ill fitting garment versus the chance of actually looking really good.
Clearly, an alterations specialist needs to be properly vetted, but it is absolutely amazing how the proper fit can change an off-the-rack-dress into something that looks like a custom made garment.
Mothers are particularly gun-shy of alterations. This is probably due to the fact that they’ve recently become familiar with the cost of altering bridal gowns. Happily for mothers, the cost of altering a mother’s dress is a fraction of the cost of altering a bridal gown.
The only time alterations on a mother’s dress could run into a great deal of money is if the dress has to be re-made; in which case it’s the wrong dress for the mother’s body type.
Typically shoulder straps need to be shortened (the manufacturers always make them long enough to accommodate everyone), a basic hem may be needed, and perhaps a nip or tuck in the bodice is required. It should be that simple.
The most important thing for a mother to remember when it comes to alterations is to wear the exact foundations she plans on wearing the day of the wedding. A good support-giving bra (very important) and shape wear will make a considerable difference in the alterations needed. Also, mothers should be sure to wear the shoes they plan on wearing to the wedding to establish an exact hemline. No “guestimating” and buying shoes later!
The first thing a man does when he purchases a suit is to head to alterations. I’ve never understood why women don’t typically allow themselves the same courtesy.
Just as a bride has a fitting for her dress, so should a mother. Remember, mothers, you’re walking down the aisle too!