Mother of The Bride Dresses: You Don’t Need to Match the Napkins

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Just say “No” to Swatches

All day, everyday, I have brides (and mothers by extension) walk through the door with fabric swatches in their hands. The swatches are the colour of the bridesmaid’s dresses, flowers, tablecloths, ribbons and even carpeting! The end goal is to have a stunningly beautiful wedding in which everyone matches. The problem with this approach is that at it’s most fundamental level it doesn’t work.

Interior designers are known for their colour and design boards. This approach works well for their discipline. Swatches are fine if we’re talking about carpet, curtains, and decorative pillows. Putting colour on real people is an entirely different matter. The problem for mothers is that no matter how beautiful the colour of the dress, and no matter what it matches, if it doesn’t look good on the mother, she will ultimately look terrible walking down the aisle.

After her own wedding gown, a mother of the bride (or groom) dress is the next most important dress a mother will ever wear; and after her own wedding, it’s the next most photographed event in her life. The importance of selecting the right colour for a mother’s dress cannot be overstated.


How to Look Fabulous

It may sound overly simplistic, but looking great begins with a colour that looks great on you.


Colours to Avoid

Champagne, peach, mauve and other similar colours are far more challenging to wear and look best on dark skinned women. Lighter coloured fabrics themselves don’t photograph as well and any special detailing such as beading, ruching, or embroidery will be lost in the pictures.

Platinum, silver and grey look best on women with silver hair, salt and pepper hair and occasionally jet-black hair. Anyone wanting to wear this colour should proceed with caution. These extremely cool colours are difficult to wear for warm toned women such as blondes and those with auburn hair. Certain shades of grey, with heavy blue under-tones, can sometimes be worn by blondes and those with blue eyes.


Colours to Look for

Jewel tone colours, such as teal green, teal blue, purple, turquoise, periwinkle, fuchsia and sapphire are youthful, flattering colours that always photograph well. These colours work well for Caucasian, Hispanic and Asian women. These deeper colours also look fabulous next to black tuxedos.


The Take Away

Leave the swatches to the interior designers and find a colour that looks stunning on you. No one is going to remember that you matched the napkins; they’re only going to remember how you looked walking down the aisle!

If you want to delve further into the exciting world of weddings, tune into Mother of The Bride airing back-to-back episodes every Friday at 9 and 9:30 p.m. on Slice.





  1. Sandy Taylor says:

    Terrie your recent article on color
    Is so critical and important for Mother’s shopping!
    I cannot count the number of frustrated shoppers I helped who have been told they must wear this certain color. In my terms the must is a dress that they look great in and feel fabulous.

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